These people will stop you from reaching your goals
As a personal trainer that is nothing more exciting than seeing someone completely transform their lives through health and fitness. To see these people with this aura of confidence, a little bit of a swagger and the motivation to make the most from life is such a rewarding feeling, but there are some people who get uncomfortable with these transformations- their friends, family and partners.
Those that know me well, know I’m BIG on your circle of influence and how important it is to have positive happy people around you. Unfortunately I see a lot of people trying to hold my clients back from a new and improved version of themselves.
Jealously is part of life, everyone deals with it at some stage, but it kills me to see friends, family and partners getting jealous with clients success. This is especially true if their life isn’t exactly the way they want it to be….. It’s human nature to compare yourself to others.
I understand the importance of stability in life, but creating positive change is critical to getting the most out of yourself. For most people it’s easier to avoid change because it means they don’t have to step outside their comfort zone. Whether it’s through insecurities, hating the thought of change or being scared that the dynamics of the relationship might change - everyone has their reasons for not wanting their friend/family/partner to change.
Personally I couldn’t handle a relationship with someone who didn’t allow me to grow. The rate at which THEY choose to grow is entirely up to them and I’ll always support them, as I hope they'll support me and remain positive about my ‘grand plans’.
What to Do About Friends Holding You Back
For the most part, you probably don’t need to make any radical changes to who you hang out with. Being mindful and aware of your surroundings and how your friends/family/partner make you feel is the most important thing. For those with partners that are holding you back - I’ll leave that one to you. For the friends and family that are holding you back it might be a little easier to ‘distance’ yourself from them.
Just remember that if your friends tell you something is “impossible” - it’s “impossible” for them- not you. You might actually find that you give them the inspiration to break down their own assumptions and set “impossible” goals of their own.
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