Blake Worrall-Thompson's Blog by Blake_Worrall_Thompson

What a fascinating first month of the year it has been. Never in all my life have I witnessed so many break ups. In total, 9 people that I know have split with their partners in the last month. I’m not sure whether it is the new year/ new beginning thing, but there is a lot of change going on.

Let’s be honest- there is nothing easy about a break up and it’s always going to leave that sense of emptiness (albeit temporarily) but it’s interesting to see how two of my mates have handled things so differently.

While spending a fair bit of time with both of them I’ve seen one of the boys pick himself up quickly, become stronger and better for the experience, while the other has made some choices that he will regret in the future.

It happens in all areas of life, you’re going to get knocked down but it’s how you respond that matters. Some people will learn from it and get back up, while others take a long time to get back up, if they get back up at all.

Being a personal trainer I see it all the time. Some people get back up and keep going, some stay down and self-destruct. For example, I had two clients last year that went a month without losing weight and were both frustrated when they jumped on the scales.  Here’s the difference. One of the girls went on a food bender for two days and got angry at me, while the other one booked an extra appointment with me so we could fine tune her eating plan and find out what was wrong.

How do you respond to challenges?

And just a thought to finish off…

 I went to a course on the weekend called ‘Intuitive Warrior’ with a fascinating character by the name of Amir Zoghi. There was plenty of good information in the workshop but for me the most fascinating thing he spoke about was feeling ‘empty’. Here it is. 

“ Those that are looking to feel complete will seek appreciation, acceptance, recognition, approval and security from others. The reason,  because they don’t appreciate themselves, they don’t approve of themselves, they don’t feel secure within themselves, they don’t give themselves recognition and they don’t accept themselves.”

It’s important that you deal with these areas that lack fulfilment in your own life first, rather than seek it from outside yourself. Then the ‘compliments’ you get from others will just be the cherry on top.

Have a good week.